Life is like a bowl of pasta. Angel hair pasta. The long thin noodles that cook quick. When you look down in the bowl the whole thing twists all over the place. Try and follow one noodle and you get caught in a hundred others. That’s life. Go one direction and THINK you know where you’re going and before you get to the end of the day you’re headed somewhere else. Think about all the times you were set on getting something, or going somewhere and then boom! Pasta presto your winding down some other path thinking, “How’d I get here?” Life is uncertain and nothing is permanent. Change is the only consistent, stable presence in this life. Everything and everyone changes, and you have to accept that. God knows what He’s doing and if you don’t totally depend on that you’ll lose your mind.
I’ve lived a life of disappointments. I know what it feels like to hope and then have things shattered. In that process, that journey, that furnace, I’ve learned some very valuable lessons. Here’s the one I want to share with you today. Let’s say Peter, a brash, brawny executive for a marketing firm is out for a walk. He’s 37, divorced, 6’2, black hair brown eyes. He owns one wrinkly little bull dog, condo, drives a 06 black Lexus with a slight pull to the right. He lives alone in the condo overlooking a suburb in Chicago. Peter loves to golf, ski in the winter and has just picked up an interest in coin collecting. He’s clean cut, clean record, and a decent guy with a dog. He’s sitting in a park playing with “butch” and in strolls the chance.
Belinda is 35. Never married and has lived in Chicago six years. 5’6, strawberry blonde with curls at the end of her long hair. Belinda loves levis as much as formal evening gowns. She’s an accountant, lives in an apartment, been single longer than attached. She’s walking “Marybelle” her light brown collie. She loves to cook, knit, and would be interested in golf if the right guy came along.
Peter notices her sitting on the other bench. She’s cute and he’s interested. Here’s my point. Peter is facing the pasta bowl in his mind.
“Should I say hello?”
“What if she’s got a boyfriend.”
“What if she thinks I’m a jerk for approaching her in the park.”
“Maybe she doesn’t live here and she would be interested then I’m stuck in a long distance relationship that ends up frustrating and we break up in a few months and I’ve invested the time and energy for nothing.”
“I wonder if she’s possessive. I need someone who still lets me be free but if she’s the clingy type then I’m in more trouble.”
“What if she’s perfect for me and I’ve missed the opportunity to meet the girl I think God wants me to marry? What a loss if I don’t at least get up and go say hello?”
Peter is facing a situation that could go in a hundred different directions right? She might be terrific, she might be wrong, he might end up in Florida at Christmas to meet her parents, or Georgia at her brothers house for thanksgiving. You don’t know where this whole thing is going to lead, you just have to decide whether to get up and go say hello.
I use Belinda and Peter as examples but life is just like this. It doesn’t have to be a date, it could be buying a house, moving to another state, taking a job, quitting something you’ve been doing a long time. Life has it’s uncertainties and if you spend a lot of time trying to analyze it all you’ll lose your mind. Here is what I think Peter should do.
Ask himself, “Do I want to get to know her?” If the answer is yes, leave the rest to God. If Belinda says “Yes Peter I’d like to go out with you.” God has opened a door for Peter and he should praise the Lord for an opportunity to make a friend. Maybe it will work out, maybe it won’t but either way if he prays and keeps God first he will learn what God is trying to teach Him in the process. PROCESS is the point. God is working with Peter and Belinda and of the millions of people in the world God allowed these two to meet at this time and there are reasons why, so discover the reasons.
If Belinda says, “Ah thanks Peter but I’m seeing someone.” Praise the Lord. Peter has a door closed and God has spoken. If God doesn’t want Peter to go out with Belinda. If God closes a door, be thankful! You don’t want to open a door that God closes! EVER!
Peter just needs to get up and walk over and say hello. Either way God is leading. It might work it might not. They will both learn and be better prepared for what the Lord has waiting for them in the future. Faith makes life so much easier when you place everything in God’s hands. “Lord I’m willing to try, if this is not your will close the door. If it is open things up for me.” Then enjoy the joy of the Lord and walk the journey. That’s faith. Hope in things not seen. Optimism no matter the situation.
“Now faith is in things hoped for in things not seen.’ - Hebrews 11:1